Lately, I’ve supported many who are concerned about conflict in their relationships, whether it be with partner, parents, children or friends. I often hear the concern that if there is conflict there is something wrong with the relationship. When I
Dreaming and surrendering
I’m a little bit afraid to write this. Some parts of my memoir are just tricky and very vulnerable to share. But I feel moved that sharing my process may help others and this is the pulse I always follow
Celebrating Winter Solstice as a Family
In this time where corporate capitalism is telling us that materialism is the source of joy, Winter Solstice, like Mother Earth herself calls us back to what is grounded, true, enduring. The experience and language of our ancestors, our hearts
Managing holiday triggers
There is so much that can be triggered during the holidays and it varies for each person given your own family of origin and trauma. In this fragmented society alot of what we are collectively grieving is the dissolution of
Community longing and complexity
These last three years in Ashland, I have had difficulty finding a sense of community. I joke that I am too ‘low vibe’ for people here because on multiple occasions I’ve had people respond negatively when I talk about racial/social
Hermanas/Sisters
When I was four years old, my sisters organized a little birthday party for me. Struggling in extreme poverty as an immigrant single mother, my mother rarely celebrated any of her children’s birthdays. So it was significant that they pulled
Being dropped
I’m not sure where we were living, probably the projects in San Pedro… or if I was two or three… but I see a dark hallway with steps. This memory came to me the way so many of my family
Turns out, the memoir has been written
Awhile back I started writing memoir pieces, mostly in response to some suggesting I do, and also because I’m a Gemini who likes to communicate :) But I often feel fairly conflicted about it Mostly because I resist this industry
It’s all about relationship
This past week we took our eldest to university. All summer and especially this last month, he has been so sweetly intentional about spending time with us. When we were traveling in Mexico, he kept remarking on how he likes
Emergent Spirituality
I’ve been pondering our trip to the Yucatan and the ruins there, including Chichen Itza. It is so complex, I am still unpacking it all. One thing I realized is that I always lead with my concerns about inequity. Seeing