There is a horror film called Mama* that my sis showed me a scene from, because it vividly captured our experience. In it there is a dark mother ghost and two older siblings who break away from her. The bright
We are all trauma bonded
Questioning narratives
After my mother had endured the death of her two young children and her beloved husband, she was understandably struggling with depression, grief, heartache, devastation. The whole family traumatized and in shock, and she with very little resource to support
The only ‘expert’ is you
For years I have cringed when I have seen panels of parenting ‘experts.’ This is such a western paradigm rooted in competition/conquest. I like to deconstruct the ‘experts’ because I’ve worked with many a mother who is comparing herself to
Escape without escape- healing disconnection
Dissociation is one of our most accessible ways to cope with trauma. As young children we often could not fight our way out of an abusive or traumatic situation. Fleeing was also not an option when we were very young.
Vulnerability as ceremony
Like most women, I experience a few days of hormonal sensitivity every month. I have always held that these are times to embrace with tenderness. Society shames women at this time, calling this vulnerability weakness, madness, hysteria, PMS and so
Creating family
The other day someone reflected that I have a loving functional family and it can be triggering for those who’ve experienced trauma. I wholeheartedly understand this. I was the foster youth/orphan who walked into other family environments and felt pangs
Tuning in to navigate the ever-changing times
Last night we held our new moon online gathering to guide all those who are on this earth, ancestor, intuition remembering path to see each other’s beautiful faces and drop into deep self-listening together. Now more than ever, we need
Plant medicine limitations
Lately I’ve been observing the psylocibin and plant medicine movements. I feel they can be very potent for some and it has been very interesting to hear experiences. I am not discouraging anyone from following their intuition if they feel
Día de Los Muertos/All Souls Day
We are entering this sacred time when the veils thin and we can honor and heal with our ancestors. A time to celebrate the memory of our loved ones, how they lived, what they loved, where they were hurt, and
Trauma brain: Not only are there two Americas, only some of us know it
The other day a client said something I’ve heard repeatedly throughout the years and understand deeply, “I never worried like this, until (insert tragedy here/loss of loved one) and now I have so much more fear and anxiety.” A parent