Something that has been astounding to me as my ‘life got better’ and I found myself in middle class environments is how little those who have been raised with sufficient resources actually interface with the realities of others, especially ‘the
Managing holiday triggers
There is so much that can be triggered during the holidays and it varies for each person given your own family of origin and trauma. In this fragmented society alot of what we are collectively grieving is the dissolution of
Hermanas/Sisters
When I was four years old, my sisters organized a little birthday party for me. Struggling in extreme poverty as an immigrant single mother, my mother rarely celebrated any of her children’s birthdays. So it was significant that they pulled
Our innate rightness
We held our first retreat in our sanctuary this weekend and it was good and deep medicine for all. My inner child’s heart felt so full and grateful to be bringing this service in an interconnected way. And to see
We are not separate from the web of life
Much of the anxiety that many feel is often a result of the way we have been socialized to seek approval from others. When we worry about what others will think of us, how we perform, how we measure up.
We are all trauma bonded
There is a horror film called Mama* that my sis showed me a scene from, because it vividly captured our experience. In it there is a dark mother ghost and two older siblings who break away from her. The bright
Vulnerability as ceremony
Like most women, I experience a few days of hormonal sensitivity every month. I have always held that these are times to embrace with tenderness. Society shames women at this time, calling this vulnerability weakness, madness, hysteria, PMS and so
Creating family
The other day someone reflected that I have a loving functional family and it can be triggering for those who’ve experienced trauma. I wholeheartedly understand this. I was the foster youth/orphan who walked into other family environments and felt pangs
the dream of our ancestors
I drove to Oakland this weekend to meet with my curandera maestra who was visiting from Mexico. Our family is very bonded, so even though we support each other’s paths and exploration, it is sometimes hard to be apart. This
Autumn Equinox- reflections and ideas for families
These past few weeks my daughter and son have been co-creating a nature ‘school’ with me that we have been sharing with some beautiful families. It has been so fun dreaming up crafts, activities, stories, games, and sharing songs. I’m